Religious and Historical Developments in Sexual Morality and Gender Roles

*NOTE* I updated last week's post because I found my notes about "what I learned at straight camp" if anyone is interested.

Rev. Dr. Richard McCarty came to our campus this past Thursday and discussed how sexual morality and gender roles have constantly be evolving and developing throughout religious history and how traditionalists wanting to promote the "traditional" ways is not really the tradition.

The Traditionalists' View: hetero is the only moral norms for sexual morality and social order:
            - nature reveals this to be true (parts fit... but, a lot of parts fit)
            - this is the way it has always been (but has it really always been that way?)
     - Traditionalists believe that the single most effective statement to say is "Gays and lesbians have a right to live as they choose, they don't have the right to redefine marriage for all of us." But they never want to say "BAN same-sex marriage" because that turns people away.
     - They also want men to be in the "hard" public world and women in the "soft" private world of homecare, morality, and religion.

Focus on the Family believes that God created sex to help people seek God and what he made us for, not just to make us follow rules. But Gregory of Nyssa (335-395 CE) made everyone believe that sex is the ultimate sin and an absence of sexuality allows for "immortality and incorruptibility."

In the biblical days, women were seen as property to be owned by husbands and sold by fathers. Rape was punished in three ways in the ancient days:

1. If a betrothed woman is raped in town and doesn't scream out, she is killed (because she could've blown her whistle).
2. If she is raped in a field the rapist is killed (because there was no one there to save her).
3. If an un-betrothed virgin is raped the rapist has to pay her father 50 shekels of silver and marry her... because she is damaged goods.

- Deuteronomy 22:25-29

Remember, traditionalists would like to preserve traditions... but is this one they would include? If not, why do we get to pick and choose?

In Judaism, there were a lot of rules that viewed marriage as a religious duty for men. Men also had to please a woman as many times as they could depending on their job (men who worked a lot had to maybe once-twice a month), men who didn't have to work at all needed to please their wives every day. Every wife. So basically they were having sex all the time. That's fun.

In Plato's Symposium there is the "Speech of Aristophanes" which states that there were three beings in the beginning a male/male, female/female, and male/female. The gods were jealous of how happy these beings were so they severed them. Thus, some people are naturally more attracted to the same sex and some to the opposite because they are trying to connect with their original being. This wound is called "love." This was included in the film Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Worth a look. Also, I believe you can read Plato's Symposium online. It isn't very long.

Looking to Rome: they believed in marital monogamy (at least they could only father children with their legitimate wife). Same-sex activity was seen as dominance. Thus, free men penetrated slaves as a sign of aggression and hierarchy.

One of the "original beings" animated for the film
Hedwig and the Angry Inch.

Jesus on the other hand spoke often against marriage. In Luke 20 he says that marriage is dislocated as duty. Some take this as him meaning that sex is bad, some take it as him saying we should be
promiscuis. Jesus also critiqued divorce because he said women owned men just as equally as how men owned women. He was a feminist. Jesus was also silent on same-sex relationships but healed a Roman soldiers male sex-slave and didn't say anything about it. So maybe he didn't really care about it?

Another cute thing, men have physical perfection and women have "necessary deformities" according to many ancients and Christian leaders such as Thomas Aquinas. Women were once men and then a southern wind blew and inverted their penis, duh. Due to this, having sex with a woman is settling with 'less than perfection' but everything that is non-procreative is a sexual vice against nature: contraception, masturbation, same-sex, bestiality, casual sex. Thomas Aquinas helped make everyone freak out about sex, good job T.A.

One of the best parts of his presentation was his relating relationships to the fruits of the spirit. The fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against these there are no laws. So if a relationship is full of these traits then it is a good relationship. It makes sense, if there is abuse it is lacking goodness and kindness.

So in the end, what traditions do the traditionalists want? Rape? Celibacy? Female dominance? Traditions should change over time.

Alejandra took this picture. Look at our cute little rainbow.

The One Where Harrison Goes to EVERYTHING!

And by that I mean like 3 or 4 events...

Ebertfest - Wednesday, April 17 - Days of Heaven

I have been to Ebertfest once in the past, and I met Tilda Swinton that time. I asked her to sign my copy of The Curious Case of Benjamin Button because it is one of my favorite movies. She kind of scoffed, said "I was barely in this," and then signed it anyway. It is no surprise she plays the fucking white witch of Narnia. She's the best kind of bitch.

The organ at the
Virginia Theatre

Anyway, this time I wanted to see the Virginia Theatre in all of its glory while also getting to sit with film nerds who love the most pretentious cinema. Days of Heaven would go in that category for me. The film in its imagery is gorgeous, but does that make it a good film? Did I think about anything from it? ...eh. A majority of the film was shot during the Golden Hour, making the lighting very even and gorgeous across the fields of wheat that the characters are working in. The film was made in the seventies but some lighting elements make the film look much younger and sexier. I loved the look and pretty much all of the acting. I did not like the story. It dragged on and it made the experience boring. I can't look at beautiful imagery if I'm asleep.

Chaz and some other guy.

That night we also watched a short film called I Remember. The film showed a young woman folding clothes, receiving a phone call, finding a note from a lost love (maybe to death), crying and then jumping on the bed. There are some shots of the beach cut into these actions. It was a mundane film and still was deeply moving and emotional. The story seemed very typical, yet it was fresh. I thoroughly enjoyed this short.

The rest of the night was fairly emotional. The festival came shortly after Ebert's death and his wife Chaz hosted the event giving us notes from Robert on why he chose what he did and who he was. There were many touching things said and even some group singing (to the ever-depressing "Those Were the Days").

I skeezed a pass from someone so I didn't have to pay to get in. Even better.

My skeeze face.

Day of Silence - David Yost

This event was pretty decent. David Yost was the blue power ranger, Billy, in the original Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers. He had been struggling with his sexuality and experienced harassment from his producers during his time on the show. He ended up leaving because of this harassment. He then went on to live in Mexico for a year (?) and then come back to come out to everyone, become a producer of several television shows (Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Children's Hospital) and do activism for gay stuff. His talk was decently interesting. He said the famous line, "IT'S MORPHIN' TIME!" So that made it good. I got pictures with him afterwards. I feel as though with these famous guest speakers, it doesn't matter what they say, but more so the fact that they're famous. So many people afterwards were kind of starstruck, and I was excited, but honestly the content of his lecture did not hold much substance for me other than the same ol' same ol'. I'm sure others had a much more meaningful experience than me.

A bunch of us that went. Power rangerin it up!

What I Learned at Straight Camp - Ted Cox

This was great.

The speaker, Ted Cox also had some other fun names for his presentation. Such as, "Undercover Cox" "Cox talks Cocks" and "Cox Goes Deep." But alas, we get the humorous "What I Learned at Straight Camp."

Cox started with an overview history of ex-gay programs in the United States.

1968 - Psychiatric institutions try electric aversion therapy of sexual deviations
1957 - Dr. Evelyn Hookes writes "The Adjustment of the male over homosexual"
1960s/70s - "The Jesus Freaks"The Jesus Movement - Christian Rock, Casual Church (later becomes known as 'Rock Church')
1969 - Stonewall Riots

Because yes, all little gay boys have
big gay uncle's butt-punching them.

1973 - Love in Action is formed (1st ex-gay ministry), same year APA declassifies homosexuality as a mental illness
1975 - "The Third Sex?" is written
1976 - Michael Bussee starts Exodus International
1998 - John Paulk and his wife get married and say they are both ex-gays. Featured on TIME

Ted Cox attended two weekly ex-gay ministries, two weekend conferences, two counseling sessions with a Catholic priest, and a 48-hour retreat.

Cox read from the book "Alfie's Home" Look at this photo -> it is pretty awful. This is the common explanation for why men are gay according to many ex-gay ministries: gay men just were either molested or not paid attention to by their fathers. Their mothers were over-bearing and so they just want to feel the warm embrace of men.

One of the holding positions practiced at
Journey Into Manhood called "the Motorcycle"
Because what better way to become straight than
to have six men grope you?

There are 5 steps to becoming straight:

1. Get right with Jesus (because through the good Lord you can accomplish anything)
2. Grab a workbook (because you need to spend money to be straight)
3. Control your thoughts (because thinking about Hugh Jackman too much might lead to impure thoughts)
4. Get counseling (spend more money)
5. Head off to the woods with 50 other gay dudes because celibacy is the goal

The workshop Cox went to was called "Journey Into Manhood" where fifty men were in the woods holding each other and sharing their intimate moments with each other. One of the worst moments he encountered was a man beating a bag with a baseball bat to represent beating his "old father." The conference was $650 + airfare, a two-day counseling session was $1000. So going straight ain't cheap.

Ted Cox then went into details about how some of these groups have fucked up over their history:

Exodus International's creator comes out and gets married to another man who led the group with him. John Paulk was spotted in a gay bar in Washington D.C. Dr. George Reker who runs a group about family pediatrics is seen with a Rentboy who is basically a male escort. Alan Chambers, who is the current Exodus leader says that he denies what comes to him naturally for Jesus.

99.9% have NOT experienced a change. But Ted Cox says it is a complicated situation because through ex-gay ministries, many gay men finally come to terms with their sexuality after realizing they can't change. They ultimately end up better for it.

He went over some Bible stuff (I kind of zoned out because I have talked about the Bible soooo much). Few women attend these programs, because who cares about women?

But American ex-gay ministries are better than some other country's such as South Africa's "corrective rape" for lesbians, or Malaysia's abolishing of femme boys.

So for more info go to iheartcox.com

:D
       


I also attended a dance recital for the Legend Dance Company. :D

Arctic Polar Expedition Films

Tonight Alejandra and I went to a lecture by a Norwegian researcher and professor, Jan Anders Diesen.

Diesen was from a smaller town in Norway that had a statue of polar explorers in their town square and he became fascinated with them. He started reading up about them when he was nine and has been researching and writing about polar explorers ever since.

What I learned: There were a lot of people trying to get to the North Pole (and the South Pole, but being from Norway, Diesen mainly focused on the north). Anthony Fiala was hired to be a photographer on an expedition in 1901 and then ended up leading a second one in 1905. The funder of this expedition wanted lots of photographs and film footage so that there could be lectures and they could make a ton of money.

There were several others such as Walter Wellman, Frederick Cook, and George Hubert Wilkins who were explorers first and took really poor-quality pictures. Roald Amundsen was one of the last amateurs in 1912 to take a camera to the arctic. He showed his footage to large crowds and earned as much for one lecture as he did for a year of being a professor. He apparently built a large mansion in Norway.

The mass of photos shoved into this one slide is
just a taste of the excitement held at tonight's lecture

In the mid-1920's films started to lose funding, but Richard E Byrd was an American superstar and claimed to fly to and from the North Pole but people were skeptical. His status got him lots of funding. But there was no evidence.

This lecture was very boring and Diesen didn't have his thoughts collected. The films were semi-interesting but were dull scenes of snow. It was hard to stay awake.

He ended his lecture by relating this classic stuff to new explorers such as Borge Ousland, who does a lot of "daredevil" exploring. Such as traveling around the arctic in a little boat in months instead of a year. Or whatever... He left us on the quote "Use old films to tell new stories" but he didn't really go into this.

The lecture was trying to be interested and if I was really fascinated with the history of arctic exploration I would be thrilled by this, but I was not....

Eboo Patel and Isis King

Two great names, right? I wish my name was cool... I guess not a lot of people are named Harrison. One of my acquaintances recently asked what my first name was. I guess she thought I just went by my last name like a big ol' bro. Hmmm....

This was actually when I was leaving... The room was packed.
Probably half the people left during the Q&A.

Anyway, Friday afternoon I attended the YMCA's Friday Forum with guest speaker Eboo Patel. He talked on interfaith cooperation in the attempt to combat prejudice and anti-Muslim sentiment. It was very good.

Eboo was a U of I grad from the Chicago suburbs. He said that growing up in the burbs taught him to try to do everything to be white. But once he came to college he could embrace his Indian culture. But while he was here in the 90s most people were talking about race, ethnic, sexual, and gender identity but not religious identity. He recalled a story where a Muslim friend didn't play around with his food and when asked about it he responded that in his faith food was life and you don't mess around with life. Everybody gave awkward silence while if he said he was from a certain class or country everyone would have opened up with welcoming arms and encouragement.

He also gave us the quote by Michael Walzer, "Fundamentalists rush in where liberals fear to tread." On September 10, 2001 no one was talking about Islam. On September 12, 2001 everyone was talking about Islam and how it was a religion full of terrorists who want to kill all non-Muslims. Eboo mentioned how these religious extremists gave America and poor version of "Islam 101" because religion was something everybody ignored talking about.

And finally, I resonated with Eboo's thoughts on the recent presidential race and an attack on Mitt Romney's Mormon faith. "Things pass as ok if they're against Mormons, Catholics, and Evangelical Christians." I see this all the time. Blasting Christianity is kind of a norm while blasting Judaism is a hate crime. (Although many times it is a hate crime... not trying to equate saying 'I don't believe this' to hate speech).

Odd selfie as I was walking out...

But all of this came together in my mind to relate it to my own identities. Eboo asked, "What if I stopped trying to be so white and actually liked the name Eboo or Indian food and music?" But I relate that to my own identity. "What if I took pride in being white?" I don't believe being white is supreme, but I do like a lot of 'white' things. What if I said that I love hamburgers, and felt a cultural connection to them? This idea has been in the back of my mind a lot more recently (as is apparent in my work). There have been some things said to me basically saying, "White people are xyz. Because white people are a majority they don't need resources and don't really have a 'culture.'" Eh, this is a story for a longer time... but basically I related that experience to Eboo's talk. That's all I'm going to say on that at this time.

Thennnnn.... Tonight I went and saw Isis King who was a contestant on cycles 11 and 17 of America's Next Top Model. She was fun.


She talked a lot about her life experiences and then a bit about her transition from male to woman. Then she talked about ANTM and I gayed out a bit. I don't remember those cycles... but I remember hearing about her.

I think what I liked most about her was the way she handled questions. There were some people in the audience who seemed to just tell anecdotes and Isis handled it well. She turned it around and made their anecdote serve her cause about trans issues and such. She also had some good things to say about how every trans* person has a different end to their journey. Some people want genital reassignment surgery, some just want hormones, some want none that, they just want to be called the gender they identify with. That differed from the Trans movie we saw a few months back.



One thing I didn't like though was how many "secrets of life" Isis seemed to have for us. Like.... seriously every little anecdote ended with a "and this is how to live to be a better person." Some of them I agreed with but some seemed quite generalizing and naive. But that's what these kinds of events are for, to teach us how to live life.... right?

Oh well, she looked fabulous and I can only assume Gino would be her best friend.

I swiped these photos from the sponsoring group's Facebook.

Drag Show and City of Borders

Last Friday I attended the Illini Union Board Drag Show with Alejandra and some other friends. This drag show is probably the best one in the Champaign-Urbana area. There are some classy ladies that come here every year.

I wanted to throw all of my money at them, but I had a limited amount of singles, so I just had to settle for giving them a small tip.

Look at those shiny fake breasts. Oiled them up
just for this occasion.

It was this girl's birthday. She got a ring and something else
from the emcee. I can only assume it is intended to be shoved
up the anus.

Kalexis really stepped up her game this year and is blossoming into a diva. Get it girl.

We decided we needed flash.... I hate flash.

Tonight I attended a screening of the film City of Borders. For a brief synopsis look at its IMDb page. This film, in my opinion, was very well done and quite eye opening to the situation for LGBT people living in Jerusalem.

The film followed the owner of Jerusalem's only gay bar, Shushan, who happens to also be the first (and it seemed to be only) openly gay city councilman in Jerusalem. The film also focused on three other locals who frequented the bar regularly: Samira and her partner Ravit, two lesbians (one who is Israeli and the other who is Arabic/Israeli) who are actively political in LGBT equality and the end to violence. Adam, who was stabbed in the 2005 gay pride parade (by an orthodox Jew) and is openly gay, very political, and an atheist. And Boody, who is from across the border. He is a drag queen, pretty femme gay boy, and Muslim.

Boody does a lot of voice overs and talks a lot, probably because he had the worst time out of all of the interviewees. He said how Jerusalem is a city of borders. There is the obvious border of the walls between various sections of Jerusalem (religious districts, etc) but also there are borders of East vs. West. Secular vs. Orthodox. Gay vs. Straight. Because of this tensions are high and people do violent and hateful things.

While watching this I felt that the situation in Jerusalem is reminiscent of the U.S. in the 1970's. There was a lot of people fighting, there were few gay bars but that was where people from all walks of life joined to feel community. There didn't seem to be the cliquey-catty gayness that we see in today's U.S. gay culture. Mainly because they all helped and supported each other and saw each other as a big community. BUT, we discussed this afterwards and it is easy for us to sit back and say, "Oh look how bad they have it!" But really there is a chance to learn and reflect on the strides made in the U.S. The fact that we aren't imprisoned or stabbed at parades really shows how far we have come.

Some other great things I noticed in the film was the portrayal of Orthodox Jews. Usually we think of Jews as being polite and peaceful, but when homosexuality came into play these Jews in Jerusalem got angry. They yelled slurs and there was even that one man who stabbed three people at the pride parade. We don't get to see "Jewish extremists" much, but I think this would be a close depiction. There were some very saddening things said in the documentary. The bar owner/councilman got phone calls saying that they shouldn't hold a parade for the men who act like beasts and they shouldn't bring sin onto the holy city. There was a moment where he got a letter with white powder in it and he didn't even freak out. He said it happened frequently. There was also an instance where Boody was shot at which spurred him to leave Palestine and move to the U.S. The hate in Jerusalem is very ripe and religious based, but unlike the U.S. where is is primarily Christian opposition, in Jerusalem there are Christians, Muslims and Jews. It was pointed out how the three religions conjoined to oppose and protest the gay pride parade.

At one pride rally, there were several groups protesting their cause. There was one group saying they should tear down the walls separating Jerusalem and another that said "Meat is murder." One of the interviewees, Adam, saw these signs at their gay pride rally and said "THIS ISN'T EVEN A RELATED ISSUE!" I will admit I think the same thing when people come up to me and tell me to protest red meat while I'm at a gay event. Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I should have to also be a vegan who sews all his own clothes.

Also, Tel Aviv is an hour away from Jerusalem (I mapped it... did you know you can get horizontally across the country in an hour. vertically in about five hours... what the heck. It takes like 8 hours to get from Rockford to Cairo and that's just one state. Dammit America) and the two cities differ immensely. Tel Aviv is viewed as the city of freedom and fun and modernity while Jerusalem is the holy city with the orthodox people and violence and hate. It is seen as a better place to live for many Israelis, but many want to stay in Jerusalem where they grew up and want to live. Kind of like living in the Bible Belt.

I forgot to get photo of myself at the event. But here is and older gentleman watching
 Boody cut up a melon. I'm sure this is the only time Boody handles melons.